Telling the Parents

Both of our parents knew that we had been trying to have a baby. Both of our mom’s actually had us on their prayer lists. My mom had a prayer list specifically for women she knew who were pregnant. She felt God tell her to add my name to that list as an act of faith. Kyle’s mom also shared how God had also given her a word that Kyle and I would have a baby in 2016. So, when we shared the news with both sets of parents, you can imagine the extra amount of joy our moms had as their specific prayers were answered!

Kyle and I decided to wait until around Valentine’s Day to tell our parents. I think that we told my parents a little bit before and Kyle’s parents on actual Valentine’s Day. We wanted to find a creative way to tell them since this was such a momentous occasion! We’ve seen several different ways to share the news on facebook and pinterest, etc. so as you can imagine (especially if you know me) I felt a bit overwhelmed in trying to make a decision, but I think what we settled on was simply perfect. Instead of me writing it out, take a look below to see how we shared the news. 🙂


First Appointment

I remember making the exciting call to my OBGYN’s office letting them know that I had a positive pregnancy test result and that we needed to schedule my first appointment. What I didn’t realize is how long the wait was going to be til that first appointment – 3 1/2 weeks! Those days dragged on, and I found myself constantly on the internet researching every little thing about early pregnancy. That was the biggest mistake I could have ever made, but felt like I couldn’t stop. It gave me this false sense of control while at the same time creating intense and unnecessary worry. I read about all these sad things that could happen and I was convinced it would all happen to me. You would think that after experiencing God’s “yes” to a long awaited prayer that my faith would have been unstoppable, but here I was doubting the very miracle God was growing inside of me. I’ve been struggling with fully and confidently trusting in God. It’s embarrassing to admit, but it’s true. I am realizing quickly that pregnancy and becoming a mom is going to force me to trust God like I never have before, because boy are there countless things that are and are going to be out of my control. One baby step at a time I suppose.

Well, the day finally came (February 4th to be exact) where Kyle and I went to the doctor for my “confirmation of pregnancy” visit. We saw my Dr. which was actually very simple and quick. We then got to go to the ultrasound room to get our first ultrasound. I was only about 7 weeks and 3 days at this point. I was really nervous because I didn’t know what to expect and I was convinced that there wasn’t anything inside me because I still didn’t feel very pregnant (no morning sickness, weird cravings, or other typical pregnancy symptoms that apparently everyone has except me. I guess I shouldn’t be complaining…) The ultrasound tech was super laid back and very friendly. She made me and Kyle feel very comfortable with the whole process. It took only a few seconds before she zoomed her screen in to show us this teeny tiny little human bean. She also captured it’s little heartbeat. You could actually watch it beating on the screen (no sound at this point). The moment I saw that, tears began to roll down my face. I really was pregnant. There really is a little baby growing inside of me. Why did I ever doubt it? I am such a Thomas. 😦 Kyle and I were holding hands the whole time and it was such a sweet, magical, amazing moment that I will never forget.

Kyle has been the biggest encouragement and positive spirit for me during this experience so far. He would (and still does) reassure me that everything was going to be ok. He would gently remind me to have a little bit of faith when all I wanted to do was doubt. He is my rock and he already is an amazing father.

The ultrasound tech had one piece of advice to offer (this was to Kyle while I was in the bathroom). She said to STAY OFF THE INTERNET. Kyle then proceeded to ask her if she would write that out on a prescription for me. hahaha! It was a good piece of advice and something my own husband had been telling me for weeks. When will I ever learn.

I remember leaving the Dr.’s office that day full of joy and relief. We got to take home a sonogram of our tiny little nugget who was only a little bit bigger than a centimeter long at that point. I think at this point Kyle and I were still the only people who knew (besides our best friends the Lyells and Dr. Mullett’s dental hygienist who I had to tell secretly because I had a cleaning back in January and she had to ask about any changes in my medical history. It was pretty funny – and she did a great job keeping it a secret!) We went to Wildflower for a celebratory brunch – and then we both headed back to work full to the brim with joy. A day I will never forget. Thanks be to God for this precious gift!

We did it!

Well, I cannot believe that I get to say this. Kyle and I are expecting our first baby! We are so thankful and grateful that God has blessed us with this gift. We had been trying for over a year and wondered if we were ever going to be able to conceive on our own. I can certainly say that the past year and few months of trying for a baby was very difficult on me emotionally and spiritually, as anyone could imagine. It certainly tested my faith and my patience. Kyle was always so very encouraging throughout the process, although I know it was a bit frustrating for him at times too. But as we know and learned again through this waiting is that God’s timetable is so very different from our own. And he is faithful. So faithful.

There were a few neat “God moments” that happened during the time we were trying, but one in particular was my favorite. Once we approached the year mark, and no sign of a baby was in sight, we started the process to figure out if something was preventing or making it difficult for us to conceive. We were scheduled for an appointment to see a fertility doctor over Christmas break. I will be honest, I was very sad that we were at this point – but also a little relieved that we were moving forward in some way instead of continuing the experience of the high hopes each month only to end in such great, deep disappointment. I had received a call from the doctor saying that my insurance would not cover any of the costs associated with our first visit. I was a bit confused and felt like we needed to reschedule the appointment in the new year as at that time I would have a new health plan starting in January and it would give me time to figure out if anything would be covered. Kyle’s mom had asked me how our appointment went, and I told her we actually didn’t go because of insurance issues and that we had to reschedule. She said, “Well, maybe that is God’s way of telling you that you won’t need to go.” I took what she said very lightly as at this point I had very little faith. 😦 Well, I kid you not, it was the day before our rescheduled appointment that I found out we were pregnant!

I woke up at 4:30 on January 12th because I had to pee. haha! I had bought some publix brand pregnancy tests earlier that week but I didn’t tell Kyle that I had bought them. I had taken one test several months before and got a big fat negative…so I told myself I would never do that again unless I was a few days late or was experiencing several symptoms. Well, on this morning I was at least 3 days late but I didn’t feel pregnant at all. I thought, well I have nothing to lose since we have our appointment tomorrow so I’ll at least know for sure whether or not we need to go. I remember watching that second line appear on the test and I could NOT believe my eyes. I started crying and freaking out, and probably sat in the bathroom for at least 15 minutes while I debated whether or not to wake Kyle up to tell him. I finally decided that I would let him sleep and I went back to our little reading nook, turned the light on and just sat there with the positive test in hand and was thanking and praising God for this precious, wonderful surprise. I will never forget those few quiet moments when it was just God and I who knew. It was so very special.

Seven-o-clock rolled around and I had crawled back in bed and waited for Kyle’s alarm to go off. When he began stirring I told him, “Babe, I don’t think we are going to be able to go to our appointment tomorrow.” He sleepily said, “Why not, what is it this time?” and I showed him the positive pregnancy test. He immediately rolled over to give me a hug and said “We did it!!!”
It was the sweetest moment ever.

I am now 15 weeks and 4 days today. I look forward to sharing more about this journey! We are just so excited and thankful!